Ahhhhhhh, being perfect, that ever allusive goal that we are convinced will make us feel great, get our self-esteem up, and make life awesome. The whole package, how we look, how we act, how others see us, we can even project this onto our children, pressuring them to achieve in all areas all the time.
It is almost impossible to stay on top of being perfect, because the truth is, there will always be someone prettier, smarter, and better than us if we are operating from Perfectitus. Then, the absolute worst happens and we make a mistake, we fail and then it is discovered that we are not perfect.
It’s during those dips in life that our self-esteem likes to desert us. Self-esteem when linked to ego gratification doesn’t seem to sustain itself when we experience failure, and we face our own imperfectness. Many of us go right into self-doubt, and negative self-talk, we are hard on ourselves and this makes it hard to rebound and carry on. It seems like an inevitable bad cycle right?
What happens if we shift our mindset and instead of practicing Perfectitus we practice Self-Compassion? Rather than beating ourselves up for not being perfect, we build ourselves up by being forgiving, kind and loving to ourselves? By acknowledging that being on top of everything isn’t all that, in comparison to loving ourselves for who we are, flaws and all. This is a true pathway to living well.
At Take Five, Self-Compassion is built into our daily lives. We are ok with being human and flawed and we still love everyone and ourselves anyway, kind of big time. And that is truly wonderful.
We look forward to seeing you on the cushions this week.